Tell me what should i do? lesbian love hurts?

me and my girl are lesbians, or bi.. we have been together for 3 years, and its both our first relationship.. she broke up with me 2 months ago because of the same reasons we fight about (sometimes i think it is wrong, but i love her).. now, she said we could try again, but i feel like she isnt trying enough.. i asked her again, and she told me to not force it, and just let time do the healing.. we tried for 2 weeks, still she isnt putting as much effort as i expected.. i asked her again what she really wants, and told me she doesnt know if she wants to be with me again.. she took it back, and told me she just wants to be friends now.. do you think im pushing it hard? should i let her go now? it seems that she wants to be with me too, she is just holding back.. i want her back moe than anything.. but i dont know what she really wants.. what do you think?